The Self-Worth Safari Program
For several decades now, we have been taught that self-esteem is the Holy Grail of personal development. But there is mounting evidence that self-esteem is not delivering on its promise. Instead, the widespread pursuit of self-esteem all too often seems to be nurturing narcissism, addiction to praise and ever-present anxiety about not living up to one’s full potential. Far from producing generations of self-assured adults, we seem to be cultivating even more self-preoccupation, anxiety and depression than ever before.
Self-worth is a more loyal companion than self-esteem. Unlike self-esteem, self-worth is not contingent on meeting expectations: neither those of others nor even of your own. Self-worth is independent of your performance; it’s a fundamental, unconditional friendship with yourself. Unlike the fickle friendship of self-esteem, self-worth is a faithful ally in the most challenging of times, on those grey days when you most need to be a friend to you. You can have self-worth even when you skip the yoga class. Furthermore, with real
When you possess real self-worth, you are not obsessed with proving yourself. An unconditional sense of your own value gives you a new lease of happiness and freedom. You develop energy and stamina. You recover quickly from setbacks and develop confidence that you can develop and grow. You are not afraid of people or situations, because you trust your power to deal with them. Being able to say Yes and No, you negotiate with new clarity and confidence. Your relationships improve. You tackle hitherto difficult tasks with fresh energy and purpose. Being no longer a hostage to prolonged spells of anxiety, frustration, envy or guilt, your capacity to act is enhanced. And your self-esteem grows too… precisely when you are no longer chasing that objective.
You might imagine that such profound changes take time. While self-esteem certainly does take time to build, a powerful inner foundation of self-worth can be built in a relatively short time; via a new awareness of clear distinctions coupled with a few focused, affirmative actions. Welcome to the “Self-Worth Safari”.
Safari groups are small groups of people who take the Self- Worth Safari together, to help implement the shifts and to share the experience of new confidence and freedom together.
The purpose of working with others is twofold. First, we experience what we are reading at a slower pace. It’s one thing to allow your brain to conceptually glide across the page, absorbing ideas. It’s entirely another to slow down and feel these phenomena in your body, to really see the habit of negative self-reproach, for example. We can only change by experience, not by ideation.
The second reason is best explained by what I now call the “Paradox of Self-Worth.” Sustainable self-worth sometimes needs to be kick-started from the outside; thereafter, it can usually sustain itself. It’s like a motor that needs a battery to get going.
In a group setting on the Safari, we learn to develop unconditional self-worth together. Reading provides a good introduction to the concepts, and group work supports putting these into practice in our lives in a very real way.
For some, joining the Safari has been a celebration of the self- worth they already have. Equipped now with a better awareness of self-worth, they find they benefit from deepening and nurturing a sense of friendship with themselves. Perhaps they have been applying this well in personal relationships, but now they want to apply self-worth in their career as well. Or perhaps they have been successful in work but attempts at home have not yet proved so successful.
HOW SAFARI GROUPS ARE ORGANIZED:
We are preparing this journey for you. Stay tuned.
Join the Online Self-worth Safari:
The purpose of the online safari is to support people in their journey to deeper self-worth, as well as those who are further along this road already. I am hosting bi-weekly calls (a call every two weeks), with expert guests joining along the way.
About the Online Safari Calls: We invite you to share your experience, in this human-to-human interactive conversation
Next Call: Preparing a Safari journey! Stay tuned!
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